Category parenting

Another Woman’s Child

A child born to another woman calls me mommy. The magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me. – Jody Landers Today is the 12th anniversary of meeting the baby who became my son.  It is our family birthday. Twelve years ago I waited outside the office of […]

Teens are Fun

When people talk about teens there’s an emphasis on stroppiness and acne and anger management.  No-one talks about the pleasures.  Watching your wee boy transform in front of your eyes into a young man and become a funny and engaging adult whilst alternating with their toddler self, each trying to get the upper hand.  Oh […]

What can I tell prospective adopters about parenting via adoption? Or the TOO LONG post.

You will be drawn to and feel a kinship towards other adoptive families. It never occurred to me beforehand that adoptive families might have anything in common.  I couldn’t imagine feeling much in common with families who’s children were delivered by caesarian section just because mine was.  But it isn’t that simple.  Adopting is a […]

Merry Christmas

Week 5

Officially a parent – funny, it doesn’t feel any different! Radio silence has been due to lack of internet connection not anything else. Today was the day that the court decision becomes final and I am officially a mummy, at least in Kazakhstan, so we went out to the usual place, the Maslenitsa (remember the […]

The Birthday (and the rest of week 4)

The boy’s birthday went well – I managed to negotiate cake buying in Russian as our translator had gone off to get a copy of our passports notarised again (I think she is wallpapering her living room with them, we have stopped asking what they are for), and my mum had brought proper birthday candles […]

Week 2 continues

Ground Hog Day Monday 13 November Today was a lovely day. In the Groundhog day of Ust-Kamenogorsk, days are gauged by whether we all had good visits to the baby-house. Junior and I got to know each other a little better and the biscuits help stave off his pre lunch grizzles for 15 minutes until […]